When life doesn’t line up with the plan you created, uncertainty and fear start to churn. The vision board version of you that designed this "no-fail" plan retreats to somewhere familiar, somewhere safe and somewhere you also told yourself you wouldn’t return.
Maybe you know the feeling?
You're afraid to let loose or have fun.
It’s too risky to step out of the safety systems that keep your life in check. No safety net, no control. And losing control or being out of control feels like torture, or worse, failure. It’s a jolt to your nervous system reminding you of times when you felt unsafe and vulnerable. You can’t remember the last time you literally LOL’ed, actually played or truly relaxed.
You worry that you're lazy, a procrastinator or should be doing more.
Your mediocre is probably most people’s personal best. But when you’re grading yourself, you always seem to come up short. Anything less than full throttle and you find yourself headed for a shame spiral thanks to your nervous system working to keep you safely performing so you don’t get left behind.
You stay stuck in the Everything-Nothing-Netflix loop.
You agree to ALL the things, but then struggle to keep up with all the commitments. Eventually, after exhausting yourself, you find yourself pushing everyone and everything away to self-protect. Then it’s binge-watching Netflix and avoiding your inbox. Until, of course, the whole thing starts all over again.
You question if you're worthy of investing in yourself.
You tell yourself that maybe there are just some things in life you can’t have—fulfillment, love, real boundaries, freedom from old narratives. Besides, when would you possibly have the time or resources to do something like life coaching? Next quarter, next year, next raise or bonus, you tell yourself. But it doesn’t feel safe to spend money on yourself, so the right time just never appears.
Movement without forward motion gets old.
The masterclass will show you that it’s safe to disrupt the unhelpful loops and limiting beliefs you’ve been swirling in for years.
It's not you, it's your nervous system. TM
Nothing is wrong with you. You make sense. In fact, every single thing you do—every behavior—makes sense through the lens of trauma and self-protection. When your nervous system is overwhelmed from past trauma or current stress, the walls come up and you shut down.
With a trauma-informed approach to life coaching, we’ll walk through a process designed to reintroduce safety into your nervous system so you can begin to heal.
This isn’t theory. We’ll go through evidence-based research that proves you make sense, and we’ll break down exactly what’s been happening in your brain and your body. We’ll transform:
Worry into Worthiness
Fear into Fullfillment
Control into Connection
Let's break it down.
Here's the concepts you will learn:
Your Operating System
You deserve to understand the way your brain and body was designed to operate. We can't wait for you to see that science says you make sense.
You will learn
- Your brain development and structure
- The purpose and process of your nervous system
- How your body detects cues of safety and danger in your environment
- The way it responds to threats
- How your body finds safety
You Make Sense
Now that you understand the basic structure of the nervous system, we will expand on the three primary and three blended states of your nervous system, based on The Polyvagal Theory. We will determine how you experience each state personally so you can better understand your patterns and behaviors through a lens of biology and physiology so you can finally see that you make sense.
You will identify
- How you personally experience each state of the nervous system
- The emotions, thoughts and behaviors associated with each state
- The ways your sense of agency differs depending on each state
- How your body somatically experiences each state
How to Overcome Triggers
By now, you will have completed assignments that help you identify nervous system patterns in your daily life. We will use this information to identify what is causing you to shift through these physiological states.
You will learn
- Regulation exercises to help you experience Ventral, your place of safety and connection
- Your personal trigger patterns
- The most common types of triggers for each state
- Your state determines your story
Discover Your Safe Resources
Now that you understand your nervous system and what is causing you to state shift, we will expand on somatic tools, regulation resources and embodied practices to help you begin to move yourself out of self-protection and into safety and connection again. You deserve to feel relaxed, connected and socially engaged. It is possible for you to truly rest, enjoy life and let your guard down. We will equip you with tools to make it happen!
You will begin to
- Understand what types of resources work for you personally
- Identify which somatic tools work best for each specific state
- Learn new regulation resources to help you get unstuck
Healthy, thriving and emotionally safe relationships are not just for the chick flicks. If you haven't experienced them for yourself yet, there is a perfectly good explanation. We will help you discover your attachment style, so you can better understand your relational patterns and heal the underlying wounds. Before you know it, you'll be attracting all of the emotionally safe and mature people!
You will be able to
- Recognize your attachment style and how it has impacted your current and previous relationships
- Understand how our nervous systems play a role in our attachment styles
- Identify why your historical relational patterns make sense
- Gain a roadmap towards secure attachment
Heal Your Core Wounds
Next, we will identify the core wounds and limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and more importantly, you will learn how to begin healing them!
- Understand the experience and belief cycle
- Identify the core wounds and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in an unhelpful loop
- Determine how to heal core wounds through embodying disconfirming experiences
- Somatically process the events that created the core wound
Validate Your Younger Self
With kindness, curiosity and compassion we will begin to identify and heal the many parts of us through somatic internal family systems and inner child work.
- Meet your inner child
- Discover the main source of your triggers
- Gain tools to begin to identify and integrate the many parts of you
- Begin giving the younger parts of you what they needed when you were younger
Break Generational Patterns
I know you are ready to draw a line in the sand for your family's patterns. We will gain tools to identify and begin healing intergenerational trauma.
You will start to
- Understand the science of Epigenetics
- Identify the patterns and behaviors that have been wrecking havoc on your family so that they can finally end with you
We are so glad you are here!
Hi, I'm Cortney!
I founded You Can Heal With Us, to help highly-resilient and ambitious women like you receive education, resources and tools to actually integrate and process their past pain and trauma.
I've spent the last 7 years pursuing my own healing and teaching others how to do the same through speaking, training and coaching.
I am a firm believer that God brilliantly designed our bodies to self-protect, adapt and heal. Most of us have had life experiences that have unknowingly caused us to adapt and self-protect to the extreme and need a little help relearning how to feel safe again so we can finally heal. I am honored to get to walk alongside some of the bravest and resilient women I know as they step into true healing. I can't wait to show you that you are safe and you make sense!
Hi, I'm Katie!
I've been where you are. I attended traditional talk therapy for years and spent countless hours reading "self help" books, but nothing seemed to change. I felt incredibly stuck and frustrated in my own life.
It wasn't until I did this program, learned the tools to physically (instead of just cognitively) implement into my daily life and learned how to SHOW my body that I was safe that I started to transform and become who I always knew I was created to be.
Now, I have the privilege of meeting other women where they are and helping them get to where they want to be. It's an honor to be able to teach you everything I have learned and walk with you through the same steps I took to finally experience freedom. You deserve to heal!
We are trauma informed and trained practitioners.
We take our training and education very seriously. Between the two of us, we have received trainings in the following:
Somatic Experiencing through the Trauma Healing Institute founded by Dr. Peter Levine
Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges and Deb Dana, LCSW
Internal Family Systems
What people are saying
I have been going to traditional talk therapy for years, but I would still end up finding myself stuck and overwhelmed. This master class has helped me understand why I feel stuck or frozen. It has given me practical tools to help me move forward. Thanks to my work with Cortney and Katie, I’ve made more progress than I have in the last 5 years combined. I have more compassion for myself and more confidence in my ability to handle triggering/stressful situations in a healthy manner. Another amazing benefit of the master class is hearing likeminded women, who struggle with similar things. When you hear “me too”, you don’t feel so alone. Highly highly highly recommend this program. Totally worth the investment!See more Testimonials