First things first...
You deserve to feel safe again.
You deserve to heal.
We want to show you how.
We offer trauma informed coaching, somatic tools and a safe community so you can heal with us and reach your full potential.Learn More
Let me guess... your daily life is not what you envisioned?
When life doesn’t line up with the plan you created, shame and fear show up.
The vision board version of you that designed this "no-fail" plan retreats to somewhere familiar, somewhere safe and somewhere you also told yourself you wouldn’t return.
Maybe you know the feeling?
You struggle to let loose or have fun.
It’s too risky to step out of the safety systems that keep your life in check. No safety net, no control. And losing control or being out of control feels like torture, or worse, failure. It’s a jolt to your nervous system reminding you of times when you felt unsafe and vulnerable. You can’t remember the last time you literally LOL’ed, actually played or truly relaxed.
You worry that you're lazy, a procrastinator or should be doing more.
Your mediocre is probably most people’s personal best. But when you’re grading yourself, you always seem to come up short. Anything less than full throttle and you find yourself headed for a shame spiral thanks to your nervous system working to keep you safely performing so you don’t get left behind.
You stay stuck in the Everything-Nothing-Netflix loop.
You agree to ALL the things, but then struggle to keep up with all of the commitments. Eventually, after exhausting yourself, you find yourself pushing everyone and everything away to self-protect. Then it's binge-watching Netflix and avoiding your inbox. Until, of course, the whole thing starts all over again.
You question if you're worthy of investing in yourself.
You tell yourself that maybe there are just some things in life you can’t have—fulfillment, love, real boundaries, freedom from old narratives. Besides, when would you possibly have the time or resources to do something like life coaching? Next quarter, next year, next raise or bonus, you tell yourself. But it doesn’t feel safe to spend money on yourself, so the right time just never appears.
We see you, girl.
We know movement without any forward motion gets old.
We want to equip you with the tools to safely disrupt the unhelpful patterns and limiting beliefs you’ve been swirling in for years.
It's not you,
it's your nervous system. TM
You Make Sense.
Nothing is wrong with you. In fact, every single thing you do—every behavior—makes sense through the lens of trauma and self-protection. When your nervous system is overwhelmed from past trauma or current stress, the walls come up and you shut down.
With a trauma-informed approach to life coaching, we’ll walk through a process designed to reintroduce safety into your nervous system so you can begin to heal.
This isn’t theory. We’ll go through evidence-based research that proves you make sense, and we’ll break down exactly what’s been happening in your brain and your body.
Worry into worthiness.
- Recognize triggers & breakout of anxiety cycles
- Identify & practice grounding techniques
- Embrace uncertainty and doubt
- Stop second guessing yourself
- Replace self-judgement with self-compassion
- Love yourself
Fear into fullfillment.
- Take your power back
- Identify fears holding you back
- Recognize & reframe self-sabotaging behaviors
- Decrease pessimism
- Practice effective self-care
- Step towards your purpose
Control into connection.
- Stop trauma from paralyzing your life
- End the cycle of playing small just to maintain connection
- Move away from all-or-nothing and toward balance
- Release anger, regret & self-criticism
- Discover joy
Two healing opportunities to explore:
One on One Coaching
This 12 week trauma informed coaching program is a roadmap with the exact steps you need to take your healing up a notch. From understanding and healing your nervous system and attachment style to identifying and somatically processing your core wounds, this program gives you everything you need to feel equipped to process your past pain and handle whatever life throws at you in the future.Learn More
What if you could get all of the benefits of the one on one coaching program but for less than half of the cost?!
The Masterclass is an 8 week trauma informed virtual class on zoom. It is perfect if you're just getting your feet wet in healing or if you are ready to take it to the next level. You will gain all of the same information, tools and resources as the one on one program, but save the bank and gain a new community!
P.S. You can totally add on one on one sessions at the end of the Masterclass. So, if you're concerned about getting the individual work, that makes sense, but we got you covered!Learn More
Let's break it down.
Here's what you'll learn:
Your Operating System
You deserve to understand the way your brain and body was designed to operate. We can't wait for you to see that science says you make sense.
You will learn
- Your brain development and structure
- The purpose and process of your nervous system
- How your body detects cues of safety and danger in your environment
- The way it responds to threats
- How your body finds safety
You Make Sense
Now that you understand the basic structure of the nervous system, we will expand on the three primary and three blended states of your nervous system, based on The Polyvagal Theory. We will determine how you experience each state personally so you can better understand your patterns and behaviors through a lens of biology and physiology so you can finally see that you make sense.
You will identify
- How you personally experience each state of the nervous system
- The emotions, thoughts and behaviors associated with each state
- The ways your sense of agency differs depending on each state
- How your body somatically experiences each state
How to Overcome Triggers
By now, you will have completed assignments that help you identify nervous system patterns in your daily life. We will use this information to identify what is causing you to shift through these physiological states.
You will learn
- Regulation exercises to help you experience Ventral, your place of safety and connection
- Your personal trigger patterns
- The most common types of triggers for each state
- Your state determines your story
Discover Your Safe Resources
Now that you understand your nervous system and what is causing you to state shift, we will expand on somatic tools, regulation resources and embodied practices to help you begin to move yourself out of self-protection and into safety and connection again. You deserve to feel relaxed, connected and socially engaged. It is possible for you to truly rest, enjoy life and let your guard down. We will equip you with tools to make it happen!
You will begin to
- Understand what types of resources work for you personally
- Identify which somatic tools work best for each specific state
- Learn new regulation resources to help you get unstuck
Healthy, thriving and emotionally safe relationships are not just for the chick flicks. If you haven't experienced them for yourself yet, there is a perfectly good explanation. We will help you discover your attachment style, so you can better understand your relational patterns and heal the underlying wounds. Before you know it, you'll be attracting all of the emotionally safe and mature people!
You will be able to
- Recognize your attachment style and how it has impacted your current and previous relationships
- Understand how our nervous systems play a role in our attachment styles
- Identify why your historical relational patterns make sense
- Gain a roadmap towards secure attachment
Heal Your Core Wounds
Next, we will identify the core wounds and limiting beliefs that have been holding you back and more importantly, you will learn how to begin healing them!
- Understand the experience and belief cycle
- Identify the core wounds and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck in an unhelpful loop
- Determine how to heal core wounds through embodying disconfirming experiences
- Somatically process the events that created the core wound
Validate Your Younger Self
With kindness, curiosity and compassion we will begin to identify and heal the many parts of us through somatic internal family systems and inner child work.
- Meet your inner child
- Discover the main source of your triggers
- Gain tools to begin to identify and integrate the many parts of you
- Begin giving the younger parts of you what they needed when you were younger
Break Generational Patterns
I know you are ready to draw a line in the sand for your family's patterns. We will gain tools to identify and begin healing intergenerational trauma.
You will start to
- Understand the science of Epigenetics
- Identify the patterns and behaviors that have been wrecking havoc on your family so that they can finally end with you
You are safe here.
When you feel safe, you will begin to heal.
What People are Saying:
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"I finally feel like I am off the rollercoaster."
"This program provided me with tools to actually start healing."
"It was the best money I'd ever spent"
"The perfect balance of trauma, mental health and understanding the power of God."
"I have no longer had any nightmares or cried in my sleep."
"(it) changed the entire course of my life."
"What Cortney provided was so different."
"I wish I would have discovered these resources 40 years ago."
We are so glad you are here!
Hi, I'm Cortney!
I founded You Can Heal With Us, to help highly-resilient and ambitious women like you receive education, resources and tools to actually integrate and process their past pain and trauma.
I've spent the last 7 years pursuing my own healing and teaching others how to do the same through speaking, training and coaching.
I am a firm believer that God brilliantly designed our bodies to self-protect, adapt and heal. Most of us have had life experiences that have unknowingly caused us to adapt and self-protect to the extreme and need a little help relearning how to feel safe again so we can finally heal. I am honored to get to walk alongside some of the bravest and resilient women I know as they step into true healing. I can't wait to show you that you are safe and you make sense!
Hi, I'm Katie!
I've been where you are. I attended traditional talk therapy for years and spent countless hours reading "self help" books, but nothing seemed to change. I felt incredibly stuck and frustrated in my own life.
It wasn't until I did this program, learned the tools to physically (instead of just cognitively) implement into my daily life and learned how to SHOW my body that I was safe that I started to transform and become who I always knew I was created to be.
Now, I have the privilege of meeting other women where they are and helping them get to where they want to be. It's an honor to be able to teach you everything I have learned and walk with you through the same steps I took to finally experience freedom. You deserve to heal!
We are trauma informed and trained practitioners.
We take our training and education very seriously. Between the two of us, we have received trainings in the following:
Somatic Experiencing through the Trauma Healing Institute founded by Dr. Peter Levine
Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges and Deb Dana, LCSW
Internal Family Systems
One last thing, girl...
It makes so much sense that you've tried for years to heal on your own.
Most of us have had our trust betrayed by the very people who were supposed to love and protect us the most.
It makes so much sense then that you would hesitate to ask for help to protect yourself from being taken advantage of, shamed or hurt again.
We just want you to know that we get it.
That used to be us.
We spent so many years trying to figure it out by ourselves.
Healing is life long work, but it is much more easy and tolerable when you have the tools and a safe supportive community.
You don't have to do it alone anymore.
You can heal with us.
We are ready when you are!